Friday, June 16, 2017

Autistic Gaming Initiative TODAY!

Do you appreciate autistic people who love video games?
How about autism organizations that make an effort to support them?

If you haven't heard about the Autistic Gaming Initiative yet, you're in for a treat. Autistic gamers from all over the Internet are teaming up, playing games live once a month to raise money for the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network and the Autism Women's Network. These charities are autistic-approved organizations that advocate for the interests of autistics, while providing them with much-needed resources.

Today begins the second Autistic Gaming Initiative live stream event, running from 3pm EST today to 3pm EST tomorrow.

This is the craziness that happened during last month's streams:

Steph Diorio                                     Alyssa Huber / Gingersnaspie
                         kiotsukare                                                      Chaz

Each gamer has their own time slot before passing the baton to the next gamer. Check out the schedule to see who's streaming!

(ALL TIMES IN EST: Stream starts at 3:00 PM.)
3:00-5:24 EST: Sam:
5:24-7:48 EST: Sythra:
7:48-10:12 EST: kiotsukare:
10:12-12:36 EST: Tijawn:
12:36-3:00 EST: Wolfesbrain:
3:00-5:24 EST: Joobles:
5:24-7:48 EST: Ell:
7:48-10:12 EST: Steph/1863_project:
10:30-12:30 EST: Alyssa Huber / Gingersnaspie:
12:36-3:00 EST: Chaz:

You can read their bios here.

Here's where you can donate. Let's see what we can accomplish together!

To watch Alyssa's livestream, tune in at tomorrow (Saturday) 10:30am-12:30pm ESTthat's 9:30am-11:30am CST for local Chicagoans.

If you aren't already following Alyssa's film website, check it out! This blog (The Life of an Aspie) provides a more personal look at her experiences of being on the spectrum, while her film website has important updates about upcoming events.

Thank you for your support, and see you then!

Thursday, June 15, 2017

My Social Limitations.

I'm what I call a "social introvert."
I like pretty much everyone, and find it easy to get along with diverse types of people. While solitude is my preference, I am also energized by certain people and activities. I'm up for all sorts of adventures as long as it's within my abilities, has an important purpose for me and fits into my schedule.

That being said, I might seem UNadventurous in many cases due to my limitations associated with Asperger's and introversion. Both severely limit how much adventure I can take in, regardless of my desire and determination to do it.

Let me give you an idea of my social capacity.
Every friend hangout, depending on the "difficulty level" can render me "disabled" for a day. It usually takes me 1-3 days to be restored to optimal functioning where I can keep up with most "typical" people. It doesn't matter how much I enjoyed it, or my "willpower" to recover. I also cannot "build up stamina" because my brain and body don't work like that. I have managed to increase my stamina/capacity with supplements, diet, sleep, and exercise, but even with that, overdoing it comes at a price. I still cannot push beyond my limits without crashing later.

The "difficulty level" of a social hangout is increased by things like:
  • Change of plans
  • New locations
  • New people
  • Sensory level of places / people (how loud, bright, etc.)
  • Information level of places / people (how much will be stuffed in my brain?)
  • Presence of anxiety triggers
  • Etc.

In this post, I am also taking into account other life stuff that uses my energy:
  • Being out in public, around people, noise, light, etc.
  • Shopping, errands, driving
  • Unpredictable events at home (family walking about/talking, guests, phone calls)
  • Work tasks, writing, research, filming, coordinating
  • Cooking, cleaning, watering plants, etc.
  • Managing my mental/physical health (exercise, meds, making herbal mixes, counseling, redirecting my scattered brain constantly, worrying about people, problem-solving)


How often I socialize really depends on the nature of the event, but it also depends on who I'm socializing with.

If I see a friend once a month or more, they are likely in my top 4 and I consider them a close friend. (#3-4 can rotate, but my top 1-2 stay the same.) I am not the typical person who hangs out with friends everyday at work and then again on the weekend. One friend per week (rotating friends so no one is left out) is quite enough for me. The only exceptions are for work and brief "stopping by" or "dropping things off" visits.

I also live with my family, which uses up a good bit of my energy as is.

If I see a friend more than once a year, it means they are probably in my top 20 and I value my relationship with them. No, I really do—that huge time gap for me is actually very small and I will feel like I just saw them yesterday.

For people who want to meet me, I am content to see them just once in my life.

I have a vivid memory, so I don't need many social hangouts to feel satisfied with relationships. In fact, too many can overload me and I'll end up resenting hangouts with the people draining my capacity. Of course, they'd never know because I can't be anything but polite to them.


Sometimes, people I have never met want to talk to me (like online friends and followers). And this is fine, I like talking some days, and I am flattered that others find something valuable in interacting with me. 

But I can't reply consistently, and I can't be everyone's best friend, so patience is pre-requisite for those who want to chat online with me.
I am happy to offer advice and encouragement, but I'm not an expert and cannot help resolve every problem that is presented to me (as much as I would like to). And I am so grateful to those giving me positive feedback and encouragement and would like to express that when I finally respond to them!

This is my email inbox. I promise I will answer you all, it will just take a while. T-T

It's not natural for anyone to have 100+ best friends; I'm sure you understand. I do really want the best for you guys, but I also want to be sane. :)

Friday, June 2, 2017

My Brain Exploded. | Delayed Overload

It's days like this that remind me of my limitations.

I've been doing really well lately, feeling like I can take on the world. That feeling flew far out of existence this morning when my overwhelm hit me like a ton of bricks.

And for no reason.

I take excellent care of my physical and mental health, so logically there shouldn't be any reason for this to happen if I was like most people. But I'm not like most people. I have Asperger's.

I know my ASD makes my brain neurodivergent and unique, and has helped shape who I am. So I don't hate me, I just hate the bad side of ASD! (And OCD, I have both)

My theory is that my recent bouts of exhaustion are due to "delayed overload." Since my lifestyle habits and supplements help increase my mental capacity, I can take in a lot more information than normal! I can do a lot more, too.

But every once in a while, that pile of sensory data and information explodes in my brain.

I go back to feeling like a failure as my body and mind feel sick. I suddenly can't control my thoughts, and I'm afraid of doing anything lest I add more fuel (information) to the flames (my broken brain).

I already feel bad about my social failures as is: like not hanging out often enough, or not being able to reply to all my emails and messages. I know part of it is that I know too many people, and part of it is my scattered attention...

I feel like no matter what I've done in life, I'm still a ditzy amateur and not meeting expectations.

The best I can do in these situations is wait it out, by myself. (Lest I vomit my insecurities on other people). I allow myself feel the pain, and let it pass. It helps to see it as a natural part of my system restoration process. Like running updated software on a system with outdated hardware, I sometimes gotta take a day to fix my system so I can continue to function at everyone else's level.

Sorry, everyone. I'll feel like myself again soon.

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) Diagnosis: A Basic Guide

One question I get a lot is how to seek diagnosis for Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) (also Asperger's Syndrome, though that diagnosis was replaced by ASD in the DSM-V). The process is different for everyone and depends on which route you take, but here is a basic guide I put together to help you get started!


Who Can Diagnose Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)?
- Psychologists or Psychiatrists (doctors who know about the human mind)
- Neurologists (doctors who work on the brain, spine, and nerves)
- Developmental Pediatricians (doctors who have special training in child development and children with special needs: also can diagnose teens)

Any psychologist, psychiatrist, neurologist, or developmental pediatrician can diagnose Autism Spectrum Disorder. However, it is recommended that you seek someone who specializes in autism, or at least one who has experience in diagnosing ASD. (For example, Dr. Wahlberg of the Prairie Clinic in Geneva, IL)

Which type of professional you should choose for diagnosis depends on your situation. For instance, in diagnosing a child, seek out professionals with much experience with children (i.e. a developmental pediatrician—though a child neurologist or psychologist may be just as good). Teens may also be diagnosed by pediatricians since they usually treat patients up to age 21.

Adults can be diagnosed by any psychologist, psychiatrist, and neurologist that aren't strictly pediatric professionals. If you are an adult and suspect you may be on the autism spectrum, don't be afraid to seek diagnosis. Despite the misconception that kids can "outgrow" autism, adults with ASD are still autistic—they may just look more "normal" due to coping mechanisms, and the pressure to fit in isn't as strong as it tends to be during school years.

How Do I Find a Nearby Professional?
A simple Google search is an easy way to get started. By typing "psychologists near me" or "neurologists in (your city, state)" it will find results based on your location.

Websites like Psychology Today's "Therapists" page, or other sites with similar lists, may be a good source if you want to look at individual professionals. Keep an eye out for someone with a PhD or PsyD if possible; they are definitely licensed to diagnose, though others types of professionals (like an LCSW) also can.

You can also find professionals on websites for counseling and therapy offices, usually under a tab like "About Us" or "Meet the Therapists."

There may be cases where a psychologist is more accessible than a neurologist, or vise-versa, etc.—again, it really depends on the situation and what options are available to you. Use your best discernment in finding the right professional for your diagnosis.

How Much Does an ASD Diagnosis Cost?
It really depends. Your location is a major factor as well as your insurance. Some clients with insurance pay as little as $10-$80 for a basic diagnosis. Others without insurance or in specific locations might pay as much as $1000-$3000, especially if you get more extensive or high-quality testing. This Quora thread shows just how varied the cost can be:

To check if a professional accepts your insurance, you can either find out on their website or by giving them a call. You can usually find out what insurance is accepted by a professional or office on pages like "Payment Options," "Insurance," or "About." If you cannot find the information, call or email them to ask.

If you have no insurance, some places will use a sliding scale to adjust their out-of-pocket price based on your income. Basically, the less money you have, the lower the price will be. Keep in mind it still may be pricey for you if the out-of-pocket expense is already very high. If there's no information on how to pay without insurance, contact the professional or office to find out.


I hope this helps! If you still have unanswered questions, please comment below and I will do my best to find the answers!

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

♥ Valentine's Day Questions: Romantic Relationships and ASD

Our honest conversation on aspie relationships from your great comments! :)

If either of us seems nervous, it's because this is an off-the-cuff conversation rather than a scripted/outlined video. This involved a lot of multi-tasking and it was difficult (at least for me) to be as articulate. Please keep the annotations on for a few extra notes.

DISCLAIMER: We are not experts; we are aspies after all. :) Our responses are from our experience.

00:43 - How does an aspie express that he fancies someone without creeping them out?
03:11 - Is it better to tell people you have ASD or wait until later?
04:23 - What is the best way to help a fellow aspie?
05:09 - Should you date an Aspie or an NT?
06:55 - Matt & Alyssa: How we work through our differences
09:30 - Matt & Alyssa: Our shared interests
11:19 - How can you keep a long-distance relationship stable and not feel alone?
14:28 - How do you meet people to date? Should you actively be looking?
17:08 - Let's talk about sex...
20:45 - Addition tips about good communication

Original comments from this video ➤

Feel free to message me with any more questions or feedback, on anything from relationships to coping with ASD symptoms, or just leaving me a rant. I get a lot of messages, but I do my best to answer them all so I will get to yours when I can! :)

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Saturday, February 11, 2017

♥ C o m m e n t - t o - P a r t i c i p a t e ! Asperger's + Romantic Relationships Video

Leave a comment about aspies & romantic relationships on this YouTube video, and Matt and I will answer your questions in our Valentine's Day video!

- Dating advice
- Specific relationship situations
- Questions for me and Matt (about our relationship)
- Any ideas/advice to offer for the conversation

Thanks guys! :) <3


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Saturday, February 4, 2017

ROUTINE CARDS ✂ Task Organizing Method - Invented for Aspies, by an Aspie

Try this task-oriented, aspie-approved method of organizing your routine and getting things done!   I wanted to share this system I came up with because it works for me, so I made this video.


Time-oriented schedules or "to-do" lists not working for you? Try this task-oriented, aspie-approved method of organizing your routine and getting things done--it works for me!

I made it specifically for those with Asperger's Syndrome/ASD, ADHD, or executive functioning issues, but anyone can use it. It's super cheap and easy to do!

00:30 - STEP 1: Write down what you need
00:52 - STEP 2: Choose paper, shape, color, size, and decorations
01:27 - STEP 3: Cut out and customize your cards
02:11 - OPTIONAL STEP: Carry your cards in a nametag holder
04:01 - SPECIAL CARDS for specific purposes


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